Updated: Aug 18, 2021
From taking a ring selfie to narrowing down the guest list, here are 18 things to do to kickstart your wedding planning process.
This is the moment you have been waiting for. You have an engagement ring, and you are getting married. It is so surreal, yet happening, and like it or not, the hours, days, and weeks following that proposal are guaranteed to be a whirlwind.
There are so many things to think about, so many people to contact, and so much to get done. Do not be overwhelmed. You have plenty of time to plan the rest of your lives but if you are like most newly engaged couples, you will be itching to share the news with all your friends and dive into the actual wedding planning part headfirst.
Pinterest boards, bridal magazines, blogs, dress shopping, venue hunting...the list goes on and on. Years of watching wedding movies could not have prepared you for what is to come (trust us, it is totally different). While the average engagement lasts a year to a year-and-a-half, there are certain things you will want to get done stat—no matter how long you plan on being a fiancé.
So where do you get started? There is no strict order to follow if you tackle the immediate to-dos. Committing the rest of your life to the love of your life is scary and amazing and the best kind of stress, however, it is a major, major milestone, and planning a wedding together is the icing on the cake—we promise.
Call Your Family
And your siblings and BFFs, too (unless you are keeping your engagement under wraps for a while). The last place they should have to hear about your new status is on social media, so give them a ring personally and tell them the happy news. Chances are mom and dad already know what is up and have been waiting by the phone patiently for your call.
Get a Manicure.
Your hands will be in the spotlight for the next couple of weeks, which means your manicure best be beautiful. Or, if you are going for the natural look, make sure your nails are clean and shaped. Otherwise, friends will be focusing more on your chipped nail polish than your gorgeous engagement ring.
Post a Ring Selfie
A picture is worth a thousand words, right? If you are ready to share with the world that you are engaged, open that Instagram. Take a ring selfie or a sweet pic of you and your fiancé to share the love. Even better—if the actual proposal was caught on film, nothing is better than that look of surprise. And do not forget to make it Facebook official.
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Round up some of your best friends and family and go out for a celebratory drink or have a special date night solo if that is more your style. You are engaged, and that's totally worth toasting.
Get Your Ring Insured
We know, we know—it is not exactly the most romantic or exciting thing in the world, but it could wind up saving you in the long run. When added as an extension to your homeowner or renter's insurance policy, it is surprisingly inexpensive.
Take A Breather
Do not jump into wedding planning right away. Take a week or two to let the news really sink in and to just savor the moment. Trust us, you will have enough stress over the next twelve (or so) months to last you a lifetime.
Get Your Ring Sized
If the ring fits, great, and if not, you will want to take it to your jeweler stat to get it sized—especially if it is practically falling off your finger. After all, you would hate to throw thousands of dollars down the drain mere moments after saying yes.
Think About Date
The most desirable wedding dates and venues get booked far in advance so if you are hoping to get hitched in the next year or two, it is a wise idea to start thinking about dates now. Find out what works for both your families and if there are any potential conflicts.
Interview Planners and/or Vendors
If you are considering bringing a professional planner on board to help with logistics and décor, ask around for references and do a little online research, then set up some interviews. For the vendor referrals alone, a wedding planner is totally worth their weight in gold. There are many aspects to planning your special day and having a Wedding Planner will not only save you an enormous amount of time but also money within your budget in having someone to negotiate with your vendors on costs.
Research Wedding Venues
Remember: You cannot book a date until you have nailed down your dream venue! Do some research online first, or maybe you already have a place in mind and can call to get more information on pricing and availability.
Whether you are going big or keeping it small, being on the same page about this one is so important. Get your family's input if it matters to either of you or if they will be footing the bill. Once you have agreed on a rough guest count and budget (we will get to that next), you can commit to a venue.
Discuss a Budget
Money talks, but unfortunately, no one likes to talk about money. It can be, well, awkward. However, before you can really move forward with any of your wedding plans, this is a discussion that must be had, be it between you and your spouse, or you, your spouse, and the parents.
Build A Wedding Website
At the very least, look at your options and decide whether you would prefer to create your own from scratch or use one of the many wedding website templates out there. Check out the pros and cons, and then pick together.
Create a Pinterest board, Google Doc, save photos on Instagram, or create a folder on your computer to compile imagery of your favorite wedding elements. Keep it to yourself just for organizational purposes, or share with your wedding planner, mom, friends, fiancé, and whoever else to view and contribute.
Choose Who Will Be in the Bridal Party
How many bridesmaids or groomsmen do each of you want? Are you cool with having odd numbers or is an even number a must? Does one of you (or both) want a bridesman or groomslady? Will you have a maid of honor or best man? No matter what, you need to discuss these things before one of you starts popping the question to friends.
Check Out Trunk Show Schedules
Have your eye on a specific wedding dress designer? You do not have to make a mad dash to try on dresses just yet, however, you may want to keep their trunk show schedule to see when they will be in town (or where you would have to travel to) and how much of a discount you can score on the new collection.
Plan An Engagement Party
(If you want one at all.) Do you want to plan it or hand the reins over to parents or friends? Do you want to go low key and have it at your home or in a friend's backyard? Would you rather everyone meets at your favorite bar for drinks or rent a space for a catered dinner? Either way, just make sure to do whatever fits the vibe of your relationship.
Do something fun, just the two of you. Mini golf, bowling, ice skating, a trip to the beach—whatever floats your boat and brings out the kid in you both. Wedding planning can be insanely stressful from the get-go, so try to find the humor in things and take some time to laugh, reconnect, and remember why you are getting hitched in the first place.