Updated: Aug 18, 2021
It’s your bridal party and of course you can ask as many girls as you want to be in it. However, before immediately declaring your bridesmaids you may want to read this list of things to consider:
The added costs
The bigger the bridal party, the bigger the bill! Consider the cost and how each additional bridesmaid could impact your overall budget—not just the extra bouquets, but the smaller festivities too. “From the bridal luncheon to thank-you gifts to the rehearsal-dinner guest count, as well as providing hair and makeup services and meals the day of, there are many details that will become more expensive with a larger wedding party" If your hope is to truly spoil these honored guests, outline a specific budget you need to keep in mind as you select the number in your bridal party.
All those cooks in the kitchen
The more ladies you have in your bridal party, the more ladies who will have opinions on the style or fit of the bridesmaid dresses, which could become quite the headache. You will then have to ensure the bridesmaid dress are all ordered and paid for in time. “Depending on the dress or designer," she says, "this needs to be done six to eight months before your wedding day.”
The hassle of trying to coordinate everyone’s schedules.
Having a large bridal party can often feel like herding cats, says Erica Taylor, cofounder of NYC-based event design and planning company. “Even just coordinating schedules for a bridal shower, bridesmaid brunch, and bachelorette trip can become a big task.” Ouch! Our heads hurt just thinking about it…
A cramped bridal suite
You will need to consider the bridal suite, where everyone in your bridal party will get ready together on the big day. If it's an offsite hotel suite or a dedicated room at your venue, be sure that it can accommodate a bigger bridal party, with plenty of mirrors, outlets, room to sit, and restrooms. “The last thing you’ll want to feel on your special day while getting ready is cramped with everyone on top of each other!”
If you don’t thrive in a chaotic environment, keep your bridal party small. “There’s no way to avoid a little stress and drama when there are eight women getting ready for a wedding together. Brides who prefer a calm, serene environment on the big day should think about sticking to as few attendants as they can get away with.”
The inevitable drama
With a big bridal party, there is a bigger chance for drama and cattiness among at least a couple of the girls, points out Greg Jenkins, founder of Bravo Productions. “There's always that one person that you have to constantly remind to get fitted, the person who doesn't get along with another member of the party, the person who wants to be the boss over others, etc.” It can cause some unnecessary stress.
Why you want a big bridal party in the first place.
Think about it: What is the real reason you want a big bridal party? If you are doing it because of politics, it is a big mistake, cautions Jenkins. “If you are doing it to compete with Princess Diana's wedding, it's also a big mistake. If you are doing it because your mother or mother-in-law has a vision for a big bridal party, again, it's a mistake.” However, if a big bridal party is your style, then he says to go for it.